Back to Normal in a House Full of Aspies

Well it’s been a hell of a week.  Getting back to normal after being out of power for so long is really a lot of work. Who knew? Never mind the back up of laundry. Just making sure that everything is up and running properly. Restocking the fridge with the basic things that you don’t really think about (jellies, worcester sauce, ketchup, mustard, mayo- you know the things that get replaced very infrequently) is a major job in itself. In fact, even though I had kept it on ice for almost 5 days, I was afraid to use HSB’s growth hormone shots, so I threw it away. One week will not make a difference right now. Luckily it was time for a refill of his subscription, so even that came yesterday. Then of course there is the property damage to take care of. We were really lucky. The tree that fell on hubby’s car did comparatively minimal amount of damage, but enough that it couldn’t be left that way. There are trees down all over our yard that luckily didn’t hit our home, unlike some of our neighbors. Hubby will be chopping wood, or rather using his electric chainsaw sawing the wood over the weekend. (I think he’s really excited about that. He loves to use his electric tools) Guess, we won’t have a shortage of wood for the fireplace any time soon.

But it’s the sheer idea of bringing yourself back into the real world after you have lived in a surreal one for so long. I can’t even imagine what the people in Haiti and Chile have been through and are continuing to go through. Their worlds are so unbalanced now who knows when the universe will correct itself for them.  Ironically there was a report that the quake in Chile actually shortened the days on Earth because it shifted the Earth’s axis. Now it was on by a second and a half, but still, it’s all rather unsettling. No I am not going to get all doomsday and Mayan 2012 on anyone. Just think that it’s amazing that the Earth’s axis can be so shifted by tectonic plate maneuvering that’s all. Wonder what would happen if my two aspie teens collided, maybe the force could at least dislodge those ice-trapped ships in the polar cap.

I would have to say that in many respects the world was calmer without all the fuss of the electronic gadgets. We did spend more time together as a family, mostly because the boys couldn’t go to school and hubby couldn’t go into work. But it was a calmer kind of less harried time that was even spent together. When you are so cold you don’t want to move, I guess there isn’t too much energy left for tension and anxiety. It really was amazing how subdued the tension and anxiety was during our sojourn into the past.

But then the world came back on. The electric grid and internet returned and the regime of school, homework and chores commenced. Now for collegeman he bolted right back into his world. In fact he had not even lost a beat in studying. He was ready for tests and class assignments-whatever college threw at him at that moment. Highschoolboy on the other hand, was not so happy to be back to school. Oh he went, much to his chagrin. Something about that transition from being in his own cocoon to the world where he has to always be” on” is what causes him the most angst. He had done his homework and studied for a chemistry test. Unfortunately he had studied the wrong topic so the test did not go well. You know, after a while you really just have to shrug and move on.

The interesting thing that happened though is that HSB’s algebra teacher had scheduled an algebra test for the day back from the storm. Best part was that he said in the email that the information they needed was up on his webpage. I guess he did not hear that most of us had no power. OK HSB could have gone to the library (yes I know we charged some laptops in the car, but even the broadband access was really intermittent) but there are only 20 computers at the library and hundreds of students. I did email the teacher and asked him to move the test, for that very reason. I also emailed HSB’s case manager to see if she could do anything. Shortly after emailing the case manager, I received an email from the algebra teacher that because of the storm and the power outage, the test would be put off for a day. No more references to how lucky everyone was to have an extra day to study either. Guess the case manager got through to the teacher. Now why the algebra teacher even had to be reminded about the power issue is beyond me, but its ok, everything worked itself out. HSB even said he answered all the math questions on the test. YEAH. Didn’t say he got them right, just that he answered them and left nothing blank. PHEW. At least it’s a step in the right direction.

Life seems to be calming down. The boys have bounced back. Studying, chores and hanging out is back to normal. TV watching and game playing is back to normal. Fussing and moaning is back to fussing and moaning about the normal things. My heat is on and normal. My laundry all several tons of it is getting done slowly, which is normal. My dishwasher is back to normal. The labradoodle just tried to eat out of the kitchen garbage can (cannot turn your back on that dog for a minute), which is normal.

Everything is back to normal. Well, for whatever passes for normal in a home populated by aspies.

Until next time,




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2 Responses to Back to Normal in a House Full of Aspies

  1. Kathleen says:

    Hi Elise, So sorry the weather/storms created such havoc for your & your family. Trees down, no power? Oh! Sounds like you\’ve handled it in stride, I\’m in awe!My son is ranting & raving at his Xbox 360. It\’s driving us all nuts. Very upsetting. He doesn\’t want to stop playing, yet it gets him so upset when he loses or something goes wrong in the game. He still freaks out when we ask him to do homework or chores, as if we\’re asking him to take a five hour detour. So frustrating! Thanks for being here & allowing me to vent. Not too many people I know understand life with an Aspie!Best,Kathy

  2. Elise says:

    Kathleen-Thanks for the props. Game playing is such a big deal in our home that it does override many other important concerns. The meltdowm over not doing well is also something that was common for collegeman. The truth of thematter the way it got better is that we did limit the game playing at one point and when they did have meltdowns over stopping the next level was no game playing at all. With them it never happened and I am wondering if something like this would work for you. Ask your son\’s therapist or the one who prescribes his meds (psychiatrist or neurologist). Also ranting and raving can not can not can not ever be allowed. He is not going to be young forever and the therapist needs to give him a way to deal with him not being perfect and disappointment. If he carries on like that when he\’s grown the schools will susspend him and in many cases they call the police. Sorry to scare you but the therapist has to work with you in real time to deal with this. I know you have mentioned that alot of the "regular" therpise have not worked, so unfortunately when the positive stuff did not work for us, we did go into negative consequences territory. Of course, they were not babies at this point but teens so understanding the consequences was easier and more age appropriate. Good luck hon, keep us updated.

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